How much do you know about your partner? The person that you plan to spend the rest of your life with. Think carefully about that question. I would bet that they are nothing like the person you met on your first date. That’s because most people tend to pretend to be who they think other people want. For instance, you might tell a guy that you never miss the Sunday football match. Then, once you’re married, you can go back to ignoring football completely. That’s a small example so let’s think about something a little bigger. Do you have the same idea of what cheating is as your partner? You might think that cheating is talking to someone in a flirtatious manner. They might secretly think that it’s only cheating if there’s physical interaction. You see what I mean, and you can ask them. But can you trust the answer they give you? Here are my rules for knowing if you can trust your partner.
Phone Always On Them?
I don’t want to make people paranoid here. But, I would be wary of someone who won’t let you see or have access to their mobile phone. It’s incredibly easy to cheat on someone or cover something up if they never see your phone. I saw a Facebook post not too long ago. It said that ninety percent of relationships would end if the couple switched phones for a day. If your partner isn’t willing to switch phones, I guarantee there’s something on it they don’t want you to see. They may not be cheating, but there is certainly something that you don’t know about. You just need to decide whether can handle that level of secrecy.
Fool Me Once, Shame On You, Fool Me Twice…
You should think very carefully about forgiving someone who has broken your trust once. Particularly, if you forgave them straight away. If you forgave them, you’re sending the message they can do it again. They may well do it again too because there is a psychological cause behind infidelity. Most men and women don’t do it due to fun and games. They might be looking for approval, and this doesn’t change without help. I wouldn’t go as far to say once a cheater, always a cheater. I would, however, consider hiring a private investigations specialist. They can make sure your partner is not cheating on you again. Now, I know the argument here. If you do this, are you trusting them? I would say, they’ve already broken your trust, so they have lost that privilege.
A Stranger Like You
I know people who have used this tactic. I wouldn’t recommend it because most people don’t like what they find. However, if you’re curious, you can pose as a stranger, adding them on Facebook or any social media. Interact with them and see how they respond. They might flirt with you or completely dismiss any advances that you make. Or, they may confirm your worst fears.
As you can see, there are plenty of ways to test if you can trust your partner. Although, if you’re asking these questions that might say more about you rather than them. Unless, they have broken your trust before.